Monthly Archives: March 2015

Toxic Thoughts, Lethal Logic and Poisonous Perceptions.

My Grandma used to have a wringer-washer in her basement where my sister and I would sit on stools and watch as she fed wet clothes through the rolling wringers. To her, I imagine it was just a dutiful chore on an endless list of things to do but we were captivated by it. She’d let us feed some of the clothes through those wringers but always with cautious warning to keep our fingers out of harm’s way. Soppy, saturated and heavy clothes became damp, flattened and lighter on the other side of those wringers. All the dirt and grime (and there was plenty of it with a family of four boys, a.k.a our young uncles) was squeezed out of those garments ready to hang on the clothesline near the backyard garden. This laundry-day memory presents such a good picture of the importance of cleansing our hearts and minds of negative thoughts and self-destructive talking. Passing them through the wringers of faith and hope, we straighten out our world-view and lighten the load of our daily grind. Our doubts and fears are squeezed out of our minds creating a pure, fresh and hopeful outlook -one that anticipates newness like the wind-blown aroma of a clothes-line filled from end to end. Just like those dirty, soiled and heavy clothes, our minds need cleansed of toxic thoughts, lethal logic and poisonous perceptions. Laundry day, like a mind-renewing day creates a fresh, clean, new beginning for the week ahead. Feed your doubts, fears, questions and struggles through the wringers of Faith, Hope and Love and enjoy the fresh aroma of a sweet life dancing on the winds of change. –PS ©2015wringer wash

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Carry-On

I’ve got baggage and at times its weight feels over the limit. It’s the kind of baggage that should end up unclaimed in the lost luggage closet tucked deep within a remote airport basement. My bags are filled with feelings of disregard and rejection; hurtful and condemning words; tear-filled pillows and unwanted loneliness. Their contents have been layered, rolled, stuffed and stacked, then zipped, buckled, strapped and locked, but like Houdini, they mysteriously surface with unpredictable timing and illogical reasoning. A casual remark from an unsuspecting friend can often summon the baggage, magically linking these feelings together like a paper-chain boa adorned in unwelcomed fashion. On display, in their assuming and accusing style, they model years of pain through explosive response, quiet evacuation or suffocating endurance. I’m not proud of the burdens I carry. I’d rather tag and ship them in the opposite direction. But I own them. I recognize them. I sometimes must apologize for them. All I can do is check them and carry on. -PS©2015

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Flowers Need Watering

Unconditional love is not always the answer. Perhaps that shocks you. The idea of unconditional love, in marriage, makes some spouses think they don’t have to do anything to be loved. It makes them feel entitled to your love, leaving them to do whatever they please. But, just as a spiritual relationship requires faith, a marital relationship requires meeting the emotional needs of the other. One spouse cannot save a marriage. It was meant to be a joint effort, a mutual promise. Healthy relationships require nurturing, time and priority, a.k.a. conditions. Neglect to tend your garden and even the most hardy plants will perish. Neglect is the tool most capable and the reason most attributed to for slowly extinguishing relational love. Even a love that is unfailing is not necessarily a love that is unconditional. ©PS 2015

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